When I Think About You

Time and again, we always hear about how good sex is. Or how good it can be. But, what about foreplay? In this week's tip, we're giving mad props to the foreplay because before play can be just as good as playing itself.

What we will be preparing for is a veritable sex feast without the main course, if you know what I mean. As always, it's helpful to be prepared. So, ask yourself, what makes you horny?

I would suggest assembling an arsenal of erotic goodies such as your favorite porn video, a couple of naughty magazines, a good sexy bodice ripper, erotic poetry...whatever tickles your fancy should be in the bedroom. Also, for extra added fun, don't be shy about investing in some sexy new underwear, stilettos, boxers, lube or chocolate sauce. As a restauranteur once told me, the food is only half the meal...the other half is atmosphere.

Give your mate fair warning that tonight is the night. There's nothing worse than setting up your playground of erotic potential only to be met with "I've got a headache". There will be no headaches tonight.

Set a whole evening aside for you two. Lock the dog out. Send the kids away. Kick the dirty laundry into a corner...it can all wait. Close your bedroom door and hang a do-not-disturb sign on it.

When you are both cozy and comfy, go slip into something a little more...comfortable. Pop in your tape, but don't do anything yet. When you feel some arousal, reach over and start to stroke your lover's thighs. Remember, this exercise is all about cheerleading without the football. What I'm saying is we're giving mutual masturbation its day in the sun.

Once you feel your lover's loins beginning to stir, reach over and very, very gently start to stroke his/her genitals. A lingering, teasing touch is all you need when aiming to whet the appetite for more. Also, if you happen to have long fingernails, use it to lightly stroke the base of the penis and the balls. I happen to believe that the scrotum is a highly underappreciated aspect of the genitalia. For stimulating your woman, I suggest a light brushing over the pubic hair and then teasing the outer lips before pearl-diving.

When the two of you are at full-throttle arousal, turn off the TV and read some erotic literature to each other while still masturbating. This, of course, may take more coordination that you're capable of at this point, but I have absolute faith in my readers.

Don't be shy about using your lips and tongue for stimulation, but avoid the porn-style bobbing or lizard-like licking. Taste your lover sensually. Think about licking an ice cream cone slowly.

Finally, when either (or both) of you are close to orgasm, STOP THE PRESSES! This is all about prolonging the experience. Take a short breather, and then continue. Repeat until you can't take it anymore and I'm sure you'll make Old Faithful look like a faucet dripping.

Until next week, meet all your needs and desires.

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