The Hard Way

Girls and boys. Guys and gals. Let's just think outside of the box, ladies and gentlemen, and get over the old notion that only women can enjoy penetration. With a good strap-on or dildo, lots of lube and an open mind, everyone can go where no one has gone before.

Initially, the idea might just rub you the wrong way. And, let's get over the homophobic notion that being penetrated means you're gay or whatever. That sort of attitude is so over. Stimulation is stimulation and is neither gay, straight, bi, purple, green or otherwise.

So, the first step is to introduce the idea to your partner because you don't want to produce the instrument and have him climb the walls. There's nothing that says "I love you" more than a simulated trip to the proctologists'.

Choose your weapons carefully, ladies. Most strap-ons on the lower end of the scale tend to be quite cheaply made and shoddy whereas the pricier ones will set you back a significant bundle. Perhaps you should invest in a dildo and move on from there.

And do I need to remind anybody that a top-quality lube is ABSOLUTELY essential here? Like I've said before, when dealing with anal action, too much lube is almost enough.

Moving on to the boudoir (or wherever) make sure your tools are handy from the bed. Start off slowly. Get him excited. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. And, no doubt both of you will be a little bit nervous/giddy/silly about the first time. Just have fun with it. Laughing together will be the bond that keeps this moving along.

After your man is aroused should you attempt any anal penetration. Arousal loosens up the sphincter muscles for easier penetration. Many people are under the impression that having someone on their knees doggie-style is the best way to access the anus, but it ain't necessarily so. Try laying him on his back and going in missionary.

Again, the only way to begin is by well-lubed finger insertion to warm up the area. Once your finger is in, push down gently and feel around for a lump like a walnut which is the prostate gland. When stimulated, pre-cum should gather at the head of the penis. This is what his doctor does to get samples from him. When stimulated, it creates intense orgasms.

After he's writhing in pleasure, lube up your tool/dildo/strap on etc etc and slowly insert it. Listen to his noises and work accordingly. Encourage him to tell you what feels good and when it hurts. Hopefully, this will be an empowering experience for the both of you.

Till next week, meet all your needs and desires.

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